How do I find guys that want commitment?

I am 32 and I am now ready and looking for someone to settle down with. The problem is that I have guys coming along without any encouragement from me, pursuing the whole thing, seeming very keen, very into me, totally wrapped, doing all the right things, pushing things towards a certain direction - having "the talk" becoming bf and gf at the 2 month or 3 month mark - then suddenly doing a complete 180. They suddenly drop the ball and change their tune literally over night - telling me I'm completely wonderful and cannot fault me - but yep see ya later oh and btw can we stay friends? How do I quickly find the ones wanting a genuine long term thing without scaring them a mile off?

The quickest way to find guys that want to commit is to be on the look-out for the warning signs of the wrong types and avoid them. You need to be crystal clear of the types of behaviours and dealbreakers in guys that you need to keep clear of - smoker, already attached, too young/old, unemployed, hung up on the past, binge drinker, workaholic, cheater, says he's bad at commitment etc. If you meet a guy that shows any of these signs - keep on walking. Also, hold off on having sex for at least 4-6 weeks with any guy you meet - so that you eliminate the players that just want to get you naked! This should keep you clear of the wrong types and get you moving towards your ideal partner.

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