I think she’s cheating?

I’ve been living with my girlfriend for the past 3 years and recently I’ve started to think she may be cheating on me. She works in advertising and is surrounded by very successful and ambitious colleagues who work hard and play hard. She’s always made me feel number one – but over the past 6 months she’s changed. She’s become secretive with her phone and emails, she’s staying later at the office and is harder to contact during the day. At home, she’s short with me, we go to bed at different times, and the sex has almost completely stopped. Am I being insecure, or is she seeing someone else?

Well the signs aren’t good right now. When people start cheating you’ll often see a marked change in their character and their actions in the relationship. She’s become short with you, is secretive and more distant, and is prioritizing work over the relationship. As well, the sex and intimacy has disappeared and you’re now uncertain about the future. When faced with this issue, you have to be sure of the facts. Observe and write down the changes, and then address the issue with your partner. Express your concern with how your relationship’s changed and ask her if anything is wrong? Hopefully this will open things up, but if she won’t talk then tell her you’ve begun to think there’s someone else. Regardless of her answer, things are clearly no longer working, and you both need to see a professional to sort out how to move forward.

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