How do I get him to commit?

I’ve been with my partner now for 5 years and we’re still renting the house we’ve moved into together for the last 18 months. I’ve talked to him many times about how much I want to get married, and my parents have even dropped hints to him about getting a ring on my finger. The problem is, he still hasn’t ask me. It’s upset me so much that I’ve left him on 2 occasions for a short time, but I've come back after a week because I hate the thought of losing him. What should I do?

It’s time for some home truths. The only reason this guy hasn’t popped the question is because you’ve taught him he doesn’t have to! He’s comfortable. He knows you’re in love with him and will never leave, so he just sits back and enjoys the sex, home cooking, shared rent and holidays away together. To change this you must first be prepared to walk away for good. Then tell him what you want – proposal and marriage – and give him a deadline. If nothing happens, leave. Cut the contact and stop the sex. Make it clear that the only way you want him back in your life again is if he can commit and get on board with the timeline. If not – he was never going to commit to you anyway and it’s time to free yourself up for someone better.

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