Can it work with a cougar?

I’m a 25 year old guy who’s been going out with a 40 year old woman for the last 5 months. I’m a University student while she’s a personal trainer at my gym. We have a great time together, she’s fun, sociable and the sex is amazing! We’re starting to spend more time together, and I love the way she takes on life and doesn’t seem to worry about what others think. Unfortunately, I’m getting a hard time from my friends about her, because they think it’s not going to last. What should I do?

This is certainly a relationship that’s currently giving you both a lot of enjoyment. If ‘here and now’ is what you're all about – then tell your friends to get on board and cut the negativity. However, you do need to realize that if you’re thinking long term with this woman – then you better have some honest conversations with her in the near future about her goals and expectations. When you’re with someone older, they may have very different ideas about important issues – kids, travel, marriage, financial independence, living arrangements, career aspirations etc. As well, make a point of being equals in the relationship with decision making, mixing with each other’s friends and money use. This encourages respect and the power gets shared around.

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