It might seem like a great idea. Meet a hot stranger in a bar or club and take them home and have a night of amazing sex! It’s new, fresh, exciting – and it gives you a sense of being desired and attractive. You part ways the next morning and never have to see each other again. However there can be a number of downsides to this type of approach, which in the long run can hold you back from ever meeting someone special.

There’s a tendency in all of us to want to be liked and to get on with people. Let’s face it – we’ve all been encouraged to do this from an early age. However for some guys, they have taken this way too far and become too nice and desperate to please. This is a disaster when it comes to dating!

Dating can certainly be a tricky game for many out there. You’re wanting to find the one, but like everyone else, you can fall victim to mixed messages and mind games from potential love interests. One of the biggest obstacles to overcome in the dating game is finding out who’s a player and who’s a stayer? Is the person you’ve just met able to commit or do they just want some causal fun before moving on to someone else?

In the world of dating, you’ll often come across different types of guys that may or may not meet your needs. In the early stages they can sweep you off your feet and seem perfect on all fronts. But then as time marches on you start to see their flaws. It might be that you’re not sexual compatible with them, they have toxic friends, they constantly run late and break promises, or they lie and are difficult to trust.

Finding your ideal partner can occur in all sorts of different places, often where you least expect it. I hear a number of people tell me that they never ‘screw the crew” and therefore stay away from possible liaisons with work colleagues. However this can rule out a whole range of possible love interests that may be perfect for you! In a recent survey commissioned by Careerone.com, they found that nearly one in three admitted to an office romance. So is it a good idea?

It’s a common problem for many couples as they try to move their relationship to the next level. The guy in the relationship is still joined at the hip with his mother. Sure it might be cute and sweet when you first start dating. He’s close with his Mum. He likes to go around to her house for dinners, talk every day and spend every Xmas with her. But when your relationship starts to get more serious, this type of behaviour can become more annoying than adorable!

It can be hard enough trying to find someone special in the dating game, but it can be
made even more difficult if you hold onto a negative mindset about being single. This
is something that you can control, and if you're not careful, you can take yourself out of the
game before you've even started!

"Do you find that you constantly talk to others about your ex?"
"Are you guilty of still trying to catch up with their friends and family?"
"Have you found yourself avoiding having sex or turning down dates
with new love interests?"

“Are you worried that you might be in the wrong relationship?”
“Do you constantly think that the grass is always greener?”

“Do you worry all the time about whether your long distance relationship can last?”
“Have you got frustrated with not being able to reach them when you really need them?”
“Do you get annoyed with the lack of sex and intimacy?”